Humanity is failing.....

So there I was working, running around the store doing my appointed duties, and the reality of human nature slams me in the face, or more appropriately, a flock of latinos do. Pulling a flatcart filled with heavy stuff, and they walk right in front of me. I nearly run them over and wind up looking like I'm doing a bad imitation of "dead swan lake". I get over that, and then the asian tourist family wants to walk fast to get around me then slow down to a dead crawl to check out crystal glassware they aren't going to buy. I lose them, then the Griswalds come round walking straight towards me, stare me square in the face then part like the red sea looking angrily at me because they had to move their ignorant asses. 

 

The adventure ends with me parking my cart where I was aiming to and then finding my way back to where it all started, with people doing the same thing as the latino family, the asians, and the Griswalds. Now, the races were accurate to that day, not accurate to folks who do it every day. I'm not trying to imply anything. The fact is that humanity is failing. No one, not any particuliar race or creed is less guilty of it than another. I run into more people that have little or no concern over others safety, comfort, or rights than I care to think about.

 

I am amazed by people who squeeze onto the elevator, or run right up behind you on the escalator, completely ignoring that imaginary three foot "personal space" bubble that we all like to have. People run around with their faces planted in their phones, nearly running into every person within a foot of them in any direction. People who swear they bought something they didn't, returning stuff that they bought with the intent of wearing to one party then returning. People who have the same basic mood as a bear coming out of hibernation. People who speak in foriegn languages expecting you to speak it as well.

 

No one really has the time to stop and talk, say hello. We all were so worried about the "Merry Christmas" versus the unoffensive "Happy Holidays" that we ignored that most people won't even take the time to look at you as they shopped let alone be personable. The human race is losing that "neighborhood" feel as egocentric and personal attitudes erase the civility we all once enjoyed. Maybe that's why we, in most cases, don't even know our neighbors names. Admittedly, sometimes we don't want to know, but that's counter-intuitive to my post. 

 

I guess my point would be that we as a people are starting to lose that humanity. At this point, dolphins, whales, and penguins have more socially interactive groupings then we do. That's sad, and it can only get worse. Society needs to change. Society needs to turn back time, when neighbors and neighborhoods meant something. Today...go out and start something. Say hello to a stranger, start a conversation with your barista, ask your neighbor their name. Let's be friends.

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Comments (18)

  1. belladora

    Here is one you can add; no one ever says “excuse me” anymore. It is a courtesy I extend to even dogs. Your point is well taken and I am with you 100%. Get rid of the cell phones, look someone straight in the eye and ask them “how are you”. People today would probably not know how to answer a polite inquiry or “have a great day.”
    Civility is only for dolphins today.

    December 27, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      Amen!

      December 27, 2016
  2. cjb321

    Politeness has flown out the window, that’s for sure. We have to start with the children!!!

    December 27, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      I agree!

      December 28, 2016
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  4. macabre360

    Well you laid it out here as it is alright. I know, see and feel all the above. Now I had a lot to say to this like add in rush hour subway packed shoulder to shoulder with delays. But as I thought more and more of how it looks to have gone to shit. I got meself all worked up and had to go pour me a stiff one. I’ll have to get back to ya on this.

    December 28, 2016

    December 28, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      I understand. I am truly looking for bright spots, but it all seems so jaded and faded.

      December 28, 2016
  5. Bettymom

    Oh, Tim! This story brings back so many happy memories of my nine years in retail!

    December 28, 2016
  6. noahbody

    You’ right. There’s no sense of community anymore. No manners. Just everyone out for their selves.

    December 28, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      There really isn’t, but I have managed to find a few good souls this week. It’s weird how the amount of a tip is related directly to how much someone doesn’t have. People in crappy cars and regular jobs usually give the best tips.

      December 29, 2016
      1. noahbody

        They appreciate good service more

        December 29, 2016
  7. willsblog

    For many years I also worked retail. For several years I was in law enforcement AND Social work. What I found is that all three professions are alike in that you see the very worst that society has to offer. There are good and bad people walking around, we see only those that our profession causes us to come in contact with. In law enforcement I saw mainly those who were criminals yet I knew that not everyone was a criminal. In the same way, not all people are ignorant slobs even though that is who you mainly have contact with. My point is that you need to make it a point to come into contact with OTHERS who are not inconsiderate slobs in order to maintain your perspective of society as a whole.

    December 28, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      Can’t shoose the customers who get in your path.

      December 29, 2016
      1. willsblog

        Nope you can’t. What you CAN choose is how you keep yourself balanced just as my comment indicated. If you choose to only associate with “the customers who get in your path” then that’s who you will only see. Remember that we pack our own chute.

        December 29, 2016
        1. timholzbaur

          You’ve never worked retail have you? if you did, you were not often complimented for your customer relations skills.

          December 30, 2016
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          2. willsblog

            Actually I outsold the manager most times because people knew that I was honest, that I wouldn’t lie to them in order to make a sale AND that they could trust me to sell them ONLY what they really needed. So no, I wasn’t “complimented” verbally, they would just come back and spend more money….

            December 30, 2016
  8. harlequine

    I have moaned fo years that this was happening, I’m glad someone else has noticed finally!!!! I know the name of a neighbour here, the others have made it very clear that we are not of their class so I don’t speak to them bar the “basic” hello and how are you. I use my manners because I’d like them being used with me too but that’s a lost cause, I keep on repeating myself with the same people but it seems that those, manner, are now outdated….

    December 28, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      I wish I could tell you how many times I’ve wanted to throw my manners out the window, but haven’t. I remain nice, but it takes its toll. You start to hate people.

      December 29, 2016
      1. harlequine

        Oh I prepare myself to be a really nasty little sh*t with people when I go out but I always try to use my best manners. It’s only when I get annoyed that the brat comes out, teeth, nails and sarcasm at hand

        December 30, 2016