Good day ladies and gents!
I have been speaking to an ex of mine who is on the brink of splitting with her current husband. “Why, that’s a shame” you say, “Oh my gosh, whatever may make that happen” you ask. Well, I have found, during our conversations, that men and women have a different view of sex. Though we both believe that it is a vital part of a relationship, we disagree on the part and value it plays in a relationship. We’ve all heard women say they are unsatisfied, and we’ve all heard men say they were satisfied. The difference lies between the one and the other.
Look guys, women want a little more, nay, they need a little more. While most men can get excited by a stiff wind, women need a little more attention. Why don’t more men pay attention to this little detail? Well, maybe some see it as work. Maybe some lack the creativity to drive foreplay. Maybe some have an egotistical male approach that two humps and a moan should be enough. Surprise! It’s not. Foreplay gentleman! Foreplay! Fingers and tongues, touching, tasting, teasing…foreplay. Women love that. Most do anyway.
In our discussions, I find myself bewildered by the fact that a vivacious and beautiful redhead laying naked in a bed doesn’t drive a man to action. It seems that one man (actually, I’ve heard it from a lot more women than just the one) just doesn’t see the long term. They see the naked body, climb on board, hump her a few minutes, spill their satisfaction, then climbs off and falls asleep while the poor woman is left wanting more. This is not the stage gentleman, and we do not want to leave them wanting more. More often than not, this finds a woman looking for someone else to fill that void left by an inattentive man.
Now, the inattentive man wonders why he is being cheated on, or even left by the women in their lives. DUH! If they have an itch and you don’t scratch it…they’ll find someone who will, and it won’t be you. Gentleman, foreplay needn’t be laborious or a study in gymnastics, but it is important in getting a woman to the point of satisfaction. It is then that your two or three humps and a moan finish the deal. Ladies, you play a part in this too. Some of the guilt is yours. If you fake it and don’t say anything, than you are to blame as well. If he leaves you dry and unexcited, grab his face, drive it between your thighs and introduce him to oral sex until you get your satisfaction.
Tell him what makes you happy and what doesn’t. Tell him what you want, or you may not get it. We are not Mel Gibson in a movie and can read your mind. It’s not an insult to say what you desire. Men who are not egocentric may actually appreciate your input. Ladies, there is also the fact that most men like foreplay too. Push him down..take control. Taste and tease him. For both you ladies and gentlemen, let the foreplay last a while. Let the fingers search and stroke, let the tongues flick and linger. Don’t let a request for something different phase you. If she wants to engage a toy, welcome it. If he wants to include foodstuffs, let him.
Until you try all the different ways and devices, you’ll never know what brings maximum pleasure. Both of you need to play a little. Men, wake her up with a special kiss. Women, send him to sleep with a lick and a ride. See what makes you BOTH most satisfied. Do this, and maybe divorce court won’t be your end. If one is a bitch or the other a selfish ass, then there is nothing that can be done, but try pleasure as often as possible, and remember…mutual pleasure means staying together…..