Good evening ladies and gents...

 

Good day ladies and gents!

 

 

 

I have been speaking to an ex of mine who is on the brink of splitting with her current husband. “Why, that’s a shame” you say, “Oh my gosh, whatever may make that happen” you ask. Well, I have found, during our conversations, that men and women have a different view of sex. Though we both believe that it is a vital part of a relationship, we disagree on the part and value it plays in a relationship. We’ve all heard women say they are unsatisfied, and we’ve all heard men say they were satisfied. The difference lies between the one and the other.

 

 

 

Look guys, women want a little more, nay, they need a little more. While most men can get excited by a stiff wind, women need a little more attention. Why don’t more men pay attention to this little detail? Well, maybe some see it as work. Maybe some lack the creativity to drive foreplay. Maybe some have an egotistical male approach that two humps and a moan should be enough. Surprise! It’s not. Foreplay gentleman! Foreplay! Fingers and tongues, touching, tasting, teasing…foreplay. Women love that. Most do anyway.

 

 

 

In our discussions, I find myself bewildered by the fact  that a vivacious and beautiful redhead laying naked in a bed doesn’t drive a man to action. It seems that one man (actually, I’ve heard it from a lot more women than just the one) just doesn’t see the long term. They see the naked body, climb on board, hump her a few minutes, spill their satisfaction, then climbs off and falls asleep while the poor woman is left wanting more. This is not the stage gentleman, and we do not want to leave them wanting more. More often than not, this finds a woman looking for someone else to fill that void left by an inattentive man.

 

 

 

Now, the inattentive man wonders why he is being cheated on, or even left by the women in their lives. DUH! If they have an itch and you don’t scratch it…they’ll find someone who will, and it won’t be you. Gentleman, foreplay needn’t be laborious or a study in gymnastics, but it is important in getting a woman to the point of satisfaction. It is then that your two or three humps and a moan finish the deal. Ladies, you play a part in this too. Some of the guilt is yours. If you fake it and don’t say anything, than you are to blame as well. If he leaves you dry and unexcited, grab his face, drive it between your thighs and introduce him to oral sex until you get your satisfaction.

 

 

 

Tell him what makes you happy and what doesn’t. Tell him what you want, or you may not get it. We are not Mel Gibson in a movie and can read your mind. It’s not an insult to say what you desire. Men who are not egocentric may actually appreciate your input. Ladies, there is also the fact that most men like foreplay too. Push him down..take control. Taste and tease him. For both you ladies and gentlemen, let the foreplay last a while. Let the fingers search and stroke, let the tongues flick and linger. Don’t let a request for something different phase you. If she wants to engage a toy, welcome it. If he wants to include foodstuffs, let him.

 

 

Until you try all the different ways and devices, you’ll never know what brings maximum pleasure. Both of you need to play a little. Men, wake her up with a special kiss. Women, send him to sleep with a lick and a ride. See what makes you BOTH most satisfied. Do this, and maybe divorce court won’t be your end. If one is a bitch or the other a selfish ass, then there is nothing that can be done, but try pleasure as often as possible, and remember…mutual pleasure means staying together…..

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Comments (20)

  1. Munkyman

    Gotta say you can do it all right, romantic… impractical, even spontaneous & they’ll eventually get over that too. OR they won’t.

    August 25, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      Just a bit of practicality here. There are those, men and women, who will never be pleased.

      August 25, 2016
      1. Munkyman

        & they can be a whole lot of fun, for a while.

        August 25, 2016
        1. timholzbaur

          very true!

          August 25, 2016
  2. noahbody

    There are many ways to bake a cake. Try them all… and take your time. It’s not a race to the finish line.

    August 25, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      I think I have…lol.

      August 27, 2016
  3. Walkaboutman

    Wise words Tim. In the heat of the moment,beware that the “wrong head” doesn’t do all the thinking for you.

    August 26, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      Oh how true that is.

      August 27, 2016
  4. harlequine

    Sex… Breaks up a couple or marriage? Oh dear… What on earth?! I must have been raised differently because I was taught that couples are two halves, we both bear responsibility in each other’s happiness and our own… Bless… Must say though, we SHOULDN’T be the only ones at the receiving end of oral sex, men don’t say no to a properly executed lickathon

    August 26, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      Indeed we do not!

      August 27, 2016
      1. harlequine

        I don’t get certain things still to be honest… why is it that women feel so inclined to their needs when a man’s, especially their own, aren’t important? No… no… no… if we are fair, we get a fair game. That’s my experience at least!

        August 28, 2016
        1. timholzbaur

          If a man is a true gentleman, he will always see to the need of the lady first.

          September 01, 2016
  5. macabre360
    Ok this ones too juicy for this Bird not to chime in on. First off, it’s sadly true that many of us guys seem to be one rounders and then out for the count. Way back in me early bird days I made it a point to not be the 1st one to roll over and go to sleep. To redeem our kind in some measure of this well deserved scourge. So I did me best to turn every stone. Easier said then done. Especially since I was to discover there was to be soon many stones to turn as it were. Especially when ones young blood runs like a race car. So by and by along with over a decade of mariage honing my skills. I was turned loose to the single world and all its trappings. Suffice it to say I still strive to be the last one to fall out. Roughly batting around 500 on that score. Which isn’t too bad a balance. Relatively speaking. The true key is… as you point out above is foreplay. The more the better I say. Hell I found it to become the main attraction at times. To the point of wiping us both out before the grand finally itself. Thus rendering it a mere nightcap rather then the cream with a cherry on top. In short I’ve found there are two ways to wear a woman out. Which is another balance I’ve been know to be guilty of.

    ~ ~ One is to just bore them to unconsciousness. Or.. after all the playful fun…to really-really “Bore” them. ~ ~

    August 26, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      The devil is in the details, but so is the pleasure.

      August 27, 2016
      1. macabre360

        PS>> Sorry Tim but I wrote that comment on the fly. So please excuse the sloppiness. Also I wanted to add that I always thought the term Foreplay doesn’t quite convey the benefits of the actual activity. I kinda think Fun-Play says it much better. A bit more encourging as well I’d say. But what do I know?

        August 27, 2016
        1. timholzbaur

          fun-play…I like it.

          September 01, 2016
  6. cjb321

    Excellent post, Tim!

    August 26, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      Thank you.

      August 27, 2016
  7. Nightbane

    Ladies take some half hour and longer to get where most blokes may in three minutes or less……

    September 01, 2016
    1. timholzbaur

      Very true, and part of the problem. It’s also why most women (though they won’t admit it) own toys.

      September 01, 2016